Knowing how to ask for help

Okay, so I’m just gonna say it.

I’m not what you would call the brightest crayon in the box. I cheated my way through the difficult subjects in school, my husband has to define the big words he uses with me sometimes, and well some things don’t always click for me. So I have to ask for help! 

But asking for help isn’t always that easy, in fact sometimes it can be down right scary. It takes courage to put yourself out there to say “I don’t know how to do this, can you help me?” 

Asking for help will help you to grow and learn wisdom you otherwise wouldn’t have known!

Here are a few rules of thumbs I’ve learned along the way when it comes to asking for help: 

  • Find the  right people to ask 

Find people who want to help you! You will come across people who think you should just figure it out yourself because that’s how they did it. I’ve been told, “just google it.” I just wanted to yell, “WHAT DO YOU THINK I’VE BEEN DOING?!” I’m not saying mooch off of people, but find someone who will guide you (not just give you all the answers- there’s a difference little padawan!).

  • Exhaust your resources before you ask

Before you ask for help, do everything you can to find the answer! Nobody wants to help someone who is just lazy and not willing to put any work in. There have been days where I am just researching hours on end, looking at videos to teach me, reading articles to help- and then I still don’t get it! In those moments, instead of giving up I have learned to just ask someone who I believe can lead to me the right answer. 

  • Be humble and be grateful 

When you ask for help be willing to be teachable! There’s nothing worse than trying to help a know it all, so be humble and ready to learn! And of course, say thank you and show appreciation. Helping someone requires time, and people’s time is valuable. So be sure to make every minute worthwhile, and let them know it. 


How do you react when you don’t know the answer to something? Do you ask for help?  

Comment below to let me know your thoughts or what you would add! 


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