3 steps to building your confidence

Author: Derek Johnson

There are times when I am preparing for a public speaking event and I find myself terrified. What if I misspeak? What if it’s no good? What if I choke? I have lost count how many times I have spoken in public settings… still those nerves get to me. So what do I do in those times? And what can you do in times when your nerves get to you? Here are three things that I do to build my confidence.

Get Clear

I get clear on what I am doing and why I’m doing it. If I am speaking for a fundraising event, I think of the impact those funds can have on the people it's meant for. If I am speaking for a church event I focus on the change that can happen for the people listening. When your why is strong enough, the what becomes so much easier. In whatever you are struggling with confidence today: whether starting a business, getting married or applying for a job, ask yourself why am I doing this?What impact will this have on my future and the lives of others? Once you have a strong why, how can you prepare?

Do the Work of Preparation

After I am clear on why I’m speaking, I begin to prepare with the why in mind. Putting work into preparation is key. For me this includes; rehearsing (which to this day still feels awkward), getting constructive feedback from people who won’t just tell me what I want to hear and finally studying, getting to know intimately the content that I am going to be speaking about. Don’t procrastinate, instead prepare!

Give Thanks

After the event I typically give thanks in my journal time. First, writing this down and giving thanks helps me to remember this success in the future when I am struggling with confidence. This also helps me to stay humble and remember that everything that I can do is because of Christ. He gave me the ability and the favor to speak on a stage, and further gave me breath to even speak at all. Lastly, this allows me to stand on my previous victories. If I can speak effectively in front of 30 people, why can’t I in a crowd of 100? Or 1,000? I am thankful for the milestones! What milestones have you hit so far? Have you given thanks for them, and if you have then great! It's time to stand on them, if you can be successful in other areas, you can in this one too!

The longer we sit on what we learn, the longer we are going to stay exactly where we are at. So let’s do something different today. 1… 2… 3… GO what did you learn from this post today and what are you going to do with it? Comment and share, we would love to hear from you!

 

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